Couple, Marriage and Relationship Counselling for the Corby and Kettering Areas.

David’s ability to ask “Why?” and turning my questions back to me, for me to answer, really made me think about what the root of the issues were. David’s relaxed manner and humour made talking and opening up a comfortable experience. I feel I have gained skills to challenge myself in the future. Thank you David.

“Following the discovery of an ’emotional affair’ our marriage was in serious trouble. We decided we needed help when it became almost impossible to communicate without an argument occurring. We found David online and on our first visit, although there was a lot of pain and anger, David made it possible for us to express what we were feeling – and the relief was enormous. David painstakingly worked with us through all of it – the blame, denial, guilt, shame and recrimination – and through his completely non-judgemental and cleverly constructed guidance we finally started to listen and understand one another. He showed us a way to begin to resolve our differences and forgive one another for any harm we had caused. His supportive and caring attitude together with his calming and ‘step-by-step’ approach enabled us to put the past behind us and start to build on the strengths of our marriage. Although we still have a way to go, we recommend David, without hesitation, to anyone going through emotional difficulties and thank him for all his help and on-going support.”

“We were going through a rather difficult time in our marriage and I felt there was a real danger we would not pull through together and that we would drift apart. I felt a strong sense that we needed help to understand each other better and to reconnect. David helped us by giving us an opportunity to listen to each other, to take time out to sort out the issues. He gave us tools like ‘Active Listening’, ‘Relationship Skills Self-Evaluation’, ‘Love Languages’, ‘Myers-Briggs Psychometric Profile’, etc. As a consequence we are now stronger than ever. We understand and respect each other’s differences better and we have reconfirmed our love and commitment to each other. Seeing David really helped us. We continue to see David as an M.O.T. marriage check up every two months which is really helpful and gives us an opportunity to reflect on how we are doing as a couple. David has the skills experience and life insight to effectively assist couples through their marriage challenges.”

"We went to see David regarding my husband’s interest in pornography, seeking his guidance in something that was very difficult to talk about. Even though there was no specific mention on his website of his ability to do counselling re pornography, we felt, after reading the testimonials of others, that David’s overall approach and skills in counselling would serve us well and we were right. David helped us to communicate to each other what we were thinking and feeling and we resolved the issue to mutual satisfaction. He relates really well to both men and women and we would highly recommend David to anyone seeking counselling."

“After being married for many years and bringing up two children we guess we had stopped appreciating the good things about our relationship, as well as each other – or even why we married in the first place. After meeting with David he has helped us immensely and as a result our marriage is back on track and we are both far happier than we were before.”

“When my marriage reached crisis point due to an extra-marital affair, it was difficult to know who or where to turn. I found David to be very approachable and soon felt comfortable to talk to him about words and feelings that are often difficult to mention. David made me feel so much at ease. Through a mixture of David’s own experiences, his listening skills and his therapies, I gradually began to realize how much I enjoyed my married life. I now appreciate so much more what we have together and the love I still have to offer my wife. I will continue to seek David’s advice and use the methods he taught me. I would recommend David to any couple who are faced with similar difficulties as myself.”

"I am writing this as I want to say how very useful and helpful my counselling sessions have been. I have had a number of sessions with David and I have taken a lot from each and every session. I have been so grateful that this service is available and I would hope that it continues for some time to come.

I can say quire confidently that many more people will indeed find comfort and hope in these counselling sessions. For me, I have never felt comfortable or ready to open up and discuss my issues and demons from my past and David gave me that opportunity and was the first person to sit and listen and offer his views to the best of his knowledge. I am now at the stage where things are a lot clearer and I am in a better place because of my experiences with David and for that I say, "Thank you." I would indeed recommend this opportunity to others."

“I found David to be very kind and calming, easy to talk to. I felt comfortable talking to him and felt safe to talk about deep feelings. I feel I have gained much from his counsel and advice. I think David is a very sincere person who genuinely wants to help. I feel better equipped to deal with my feelings and emotions and I felt that David helped to set me free in some respects from many rules I had made for myself. This has made a huge difference in my life and relationships with others. I would like to say, “Thank you".”

"David. I would like to say a few words about my journey with you. At first when I lost my mum very quickly to cancer I thought my world had come to an end and had no idea how to begin this chapter in my life or how to deal with it. It was a very difficult decision to go and find a counsellor to help as I never thought it would help - as at the time I was so low and lacked experience in grief or showing my emotions to a stranger. In the time spent with you, you made me feel very comfortable and relaxed which enabled me to open up and be honest with the way I was feeling. You taught me about all the emotions and feelings that this journey was going to take me through and I hit every one - but with your help I came through it. I don't think I will ever get over the passing of my mum but the truth is I can deal with and understand all the emotions I go through now. I just want to thank you for all your help and understanding you gave me. Without this I don't know where I would be. Anyone that reads this, it doesn't make you a lesser man or woman to ask for help. Thank you so much David for all your help.....highly commended. Kind regards."

“After some changes in my personal and work life, I contacted David. I was very nervous at first as I had never spoken to a counsellor before. David’s friendly and relaxed manner put me at ease straightaway. After discussing my thoughts on a number of subjects, David offered practical advice to help me positively move forward with my life. David’s approach was like having an open and honest conversation with a non-judgemental friend who would happily provide support. I would recommend David to anyone who might be facing a stressful or difficult time in their life.”

“If you’re in a place where you don’t know where to go, then the one thing I couldn’t recommend highly enough is that you go to see David. His ability to listen and contribute constructively is invaluable. I began in a bizarre way to look forward to our sessions and learnt an immense amount and my relationship with my family has improved beyond belief. David has left me with increased communications skills, confidence and self belief. Thank you.”

“Trust is a crucial part of any relationship and when relationships with our adopted teenage daughter reached breaking point, we knew we had to do something. Our social worker put us in touch with David and from the first meeting we instinctively knew he was someone we could trust. More importantly, our daughter trusted him and this was something that she has not been able to do with any other therapist in the past. We see David fortnightly as a family and he has not only enabled us to talk openly about our hurts and difficulties but he has also given us the practical tools to try to communicate better outside of the counselling room. David’s own experience of complex couple and family relationships gives him a unique understanding; he has an empathetic approach and our children instinctively open up to him, sometimes even quoting him in between sessions. The mantra in our family has become. ”David said.” We are still a work in progress but we move forward with confidence knowing that we have David’s expertise, wisdom and support.”

“David has been an amazing help and support in my teenage daughter and I understanding one another a little better. I had reached breaking point with my daughter’s erratic behaviour and my ex-husband and I were becoming increasingly concerned about the direction in which her future was heading if this behaviour continued. We all agreed we needed some help in identifying what had gone wrong to enable us to make better choices. After finding David’s details via a Google search, I contacted him and made our first appointment. Immediately we each felt at ease with David and following the initial 30 minute introduction meeting my daughter trusted David sufficiently to confide in him, identifying a root cause to many of our difficulties. Through open discussion and practical exercises in active listening and anger management we were able to understand each other better and are now able to help one another during difficult times – rather than antagonise each other – by using these tools. During subsequent sessions, we not only continued with progress from the previous session, but also addressed issues that occurred outside of our immediate relationship as these were also relevant to how we interacted as a family. Thank you David.”

“Through the talks we had, you’ve given me better insight into my thinking patterns and my behaviour and I believe you’ve given me a better chance of making better decisions in the future by making me have a better understanding of my behaviour. Thank you for everything. God bless you. I learned a lot from you.”

“I felt I needed counselling following the death of my husband 15 months ago. Initially apprehensive, I was amazed at how easy and natural I found it to explore my problems/concerns. Further it was actually a voyage of self discovery. I learnt much about myself and bereavement and was able to focus my thoughts. I found David approachable, non-judgemental, calm, reassuring and easy to communicate with. I highly recommend his counselling service to everyone.”

“Dear David. Time with you has been a strength to me and an encouragement to my soul. I have truly received purpose and hope, and through your help have been touched by God’s grace and mercy. May God bless you for your valuable work at H.M.P. Littlehey.”

“Hi David. Just a little letter to say, “Thank you,” for your help in this hard time for me. You made me feel comfortable from the very start. It was a big loss losing my dad but as you have shown me, we all lose someone and it’s what we do after to make them proud of us. Thank you David.”

“I want to thank you David from the heart for your patience and understanding and listening to me each week. Our meetings were very beneficial to me mentally and I think without them I would have fell apart. I no longer have silly thoughts about calling it a day and life goes on and you have helped me through that David. I will always be grateful to you David.”

“David was understanding and his personal approach and style was very focused on me committed to finding my own solutions and answers and building my confidence and self-esteem. It was very positive, very active and very proactive. It helped me to prioritise my life. David had a very good understanding of what made me tick and this was relayed in the recuperation process. I never felt alone through the sessions. I can only thank David. I now feel better equipped for ‘life’ and have never felt this happy with myself for a while.”

“I contacted David for help with some personal issues affecting my private life. I have never had or been counselled though when I first met David he firstly made me feel welcome and relaxed. He helped me identify my issues and gave me the counselling advice I needed to deal with them. The more I saw David the better I felt about myself and knowing that I could approach and talk to David about any problems I had. I highly recommend David’s services and can say he has become a friend although always professional. Thank you.”

"I had a lot of issues and problems that have plagued my life for years because I was unable to talk about them. So, when counselling with David was suggested to me I was sceptical but willing to give it a try.

Counselling has helped me to turn my life around because it has opened my eyes to the underlying problems and allowed me to move forward with a renewed sense of self worth.

For a long time I was consumed with anger and resentment because I grew up without a father and so had a lack of self-worth. I found it hard to talk to anyone about my problems because I developed trust issues as a result of living such a hard life. I have since bared my soul to David and as a result I feel that I have unburdened myself of all the negative thoughts and feelings that have plagued my life. The positive impact that counselling with David has had on me has allowed me to move on with my life and I would recommend counselling with him to anyone who may be struggling with issues in their life too".

"I would like to express my thanks for receiving bereavement counselling from David. I was going through a difficult time, coming to terms over my only brother's passing. David restored my hope for the future. David made me feel and think more positively about myself. I was able to reflect and open up to David and felt afterwards a heavyweight had been lifted off me. They say a problem shared is a problem halved and that was true after seeing David. It not only has released a lot of grief but also helped with day to day situations.

I would strongly recommend David's help to anyone in a similar situation. Regards and thanks to David and best wishes for the future. God Bless."

“On first meeting David, I described my mind as a tangled mess. Having relationship problems, hindered by long-standing life issues, I was at a loss. With his kind, understanding and most importantly non-judgemental approach, I have learnt to deal with my emotions and problems in a more rational manner. It has been a difficult and painful journey, still ongoing. But no longer feeling worthless and having a more positive outlook, I feel able and strong enough to cope with my fears. Thank you, David.”

“David and his compassionate ways showed me how to overcome the pains I had held for years. Emotional struggles are never straightforward but with ideas, advice and guidance, I gained strength over areas of weakness and I now begin to strengthen each passing day. I give praise to David for showing ways how to deal with the unwarranted invasions in life to which I lived under the umbrella of darkness and shame. It is with true kindness that I say a sincere “Thank you” to David.”

“When we first started seeing David we didn’t know if we were going to be able to work through the problems we had in our marriage. With David’s help we not only worked through our problems but have been able to lay a stronger foundation for which to build on in the future. David was always professional, understanding, friendly and positive. He has provided us with some invaluable tools that we now use on a day to day basis. We can confidently say that without David’s help we would not still be together.”

“I often thought counselling was not for me. It’s surprising how quickly you can get bogged down with your feelings but since attending David’s sessions, it has made me realise just how valuable his service really is. I now feel that I can deal with problems in a more productive manner.”

“After being married for almost 9 years, married life as we knew it had been struck with crisis and we did not know where to turn. After first trying another national counselling service, we found we could not “relate” to it at all! We found David through his website and have never looked back. Our marriage was on the rocks, but David’s approach to us and our situation was positive and encouraging and we found that we could relax 100% in his presence. He has given us priceless communication tools which we will use forever. Encouraging, engaging, positive, empathetic, sympathetic and professional are just a few of the words that come to mind when we speak of David. He has been instrumental in helping us help our marriage and we will be eternally grateful to him for that. Thank you David!”

“Prior to our meetings with David we were a broken jigsaw puzzle ready to be abandoned. David has helped us to put the pieces together and now we are a whole and complete picture together. Thank you David.”

"We contacted David to see if we could rescue our marriage from what seemed like a downward spiral that was only going to end in separation after around nineteen years and two children. David allowed to us explain our thoughts and feelings in a non-confrontational atmosphere, before then working with us to help get our marriage back on track. He helped us to be honest with ourselves and each other, helped to forgive and move on, whilst appreciating that over time relationships are affected by baggage collected on the way, but he has given us the tools to move forward positively. Most importantly, David has helped us to remember why we fell in love in the first place and to fall in love once more. Thank-you."

“I first went to see David during an emotionally challenging time in both my professional and private life. David’s kind and warm demeanour allowed and gave me the confidence and assurance to open up about issues that I had never previously been able to discuss. I cannot thank David enough for his support throughout this difficult time that has allowed me to look forward to my future with a positive outlook that I never thought possible before.”

"David has given us the skills to move on in our marriage and the confidence that we will overcome any future problems with the skills he has taught us. Through careful listening and amazing insight, he was able to unravel hurts and misunderstandings going back many years. Our whole approach to each other has changed and we feel happier and closer than we have ever been. My husband had resisted my attempts to see a counsellor for years and embarked on it with no confidence of success. However he is now a convert and thrilled with the results. Thank you David – I wish we had found you years ago."

“I was put in touch with David through my social worker. We were having severe problems with our 9 year old adopted son. David counselled both myself and my husband through a very difficult time. He has a wonderful approach, full of kindness & understanding. The advice he gave us was consistently from the heart, yet totally practical and sensible. David has a huge experience of life and I feel he has helped us immeasurably and I imagine I shall continue to seek his advice wherever our path may lead.”

“We weren’t sure what to expect when we first embarked on marriage counselling, but David put us both at ease quickly and was constructive without being judgemental. Over a short space of time, David has given us the skills to communicate effectively within our marriage. This has meant that we have learned to appreciate each other’s differences and avoid major conflict – going forward in our relationship. David has introduced us to some simple techniques which have helped to save our marriage. If only we knew about them before!”

“Thanks to my counselling, I have managed to overcome my emotional problems in a way that I can deal with them. This means that I can now focus more on the future and am feeling less stressed and healthier. Thank you David!” 

"David. Just a small token to say, "Thank you," for all your help from the counselling. You've helped me to see things/my life in a much better light and helped me to see how lucky I am." 

“I’m so grateful to David for the massive help he has been to me. Our time together has given me so much to think about and the tools to work on many things that have never before been shifted. It’s so good to have someone to talk to who comes from a different angle and helps you see things in a new light.”